Have you considered the blessing of kindness?

Never let loyalty and kindess leave you!  Tie them around your neck as a reminder.  Write them deep within your heart.  Then you will find favor with both God and people and you will earn a good reputation. Proverbs 3:3,4

I read these scriptures a couple of weeks ago and I was struck about the beauty and wonder of kindness.  Kind people are blessed with favor from both God and people.  Kindness is something we all expect, but we don't always give.  Kind people are usually safe people, because they are not just living their life for themselves.  They live a life of generosity and consideration.

There was a study done in 2003 of 37 cultures around the world with 16,000 participants were asked about their most desired trait in a mate.  Their first preference was kindness!  We desire kindness.  Our God is kind.  He is caring, compassionate and loving, tenderhearted and gracious all aspects of kindness.  He desires that we exhibit the fruit of kindness in our lives.  It seems like a simple, almost no-brainer thought.  However, not as easy said and done. 

Another study was done to try and discover the root of bullying.  Most of the children in the study admitted they bullied others because they found it enjoyable!  We must teach our children to be kind.  To teach them kindness, we must be kind to them and model it before them.  A great place to start is a husband being kind to his wife and a wife being kind to her husband.  Kindness not only in words but by tone, and actions.

Teaching our children to be kind to one another can be an exhausting, seemingly endless task.  But it is important. My granddaughter tripped in the parking lot today at school.  She hurt her knees and her brother immediately came over and said, "I'm sorry Brielle.  Are you ok?"  He helped me help her up and then got her laughing at his comments.  It was a kind thing to do.  He could have just as easily laughed and made fun of her for falling...the nature of a 9 year old boy!  His tone of voice conveyed compassion and empathy.  I think he learned this from his dad, who is one of the kindest men I know.

Kindness adds beauty and peace to those around us.  It does not mean weakness.  It takes a strong person to be kind in the face of unkindness.  

I don't know what a "kindness" reminder necklace would look like, maybe some artistic type person can make one for us all. However, I do know that we first need to learn to be kind to ourselves.  Giving our self some forgiveness, patience and grace as we learn or re-learn to let the Holy Spirit produce the fruit of kindness in our lives.  

Be kind to one another as He is kind to you.